This past week I took a different road home from Vancouver.
The roads, the terrain, the towns were all unfamiliar to me. Sometimes I got frustrated and questioned my choice.
Heat got to me, I got lost a couple times, had car troubles ( surprise, surprise !) had a lot of time alone, met a few cool people and got pulled into border security for inspection over medications. It was an adventure.
I went out of my comfort zone and escaped a “routine.” I got where I needed to with a different road.
I love routine, I love knowing what is coming my way. I am not adverse to change but I know, like most people, I like the comfort of just “knowing”
This entire last year has been swings and turns and changes almost every single day. It has made me better and gave the confidence to step out of routine. It has also been getting to me because of lack of consistency. Doesn’t make sense does it ?
I am not entirely happy with a lot of things right now. None of it is by what others have or haven’t done. I own my thoughts and my next steps. That is where this post comes in.
Since I have been home, I’ve had conversations with a few people who just are unhappy. Who either don’t want to or do not know how to make a change to make things better for themselves. They seek advice from me. Why, I have no idea, but they do.
So, here is my advice to anyone struggling with anything right now.
Life can really suck sometimes. Sometimes it seems like you just can’t get out of what you have to in order to be happy or live better.
I could tell you to suck it up and deal with it but that is not the right answer. I know adversity, trust me.
Deal with it but break shit down. No one is going to give you the free and easy way out. Looking at every single problem as one big issue will never help. BREAK IT DOWN !
STOP whining and complaining and start doing something small. JUST START.
Talk to people who care, who have been there. You will find out very quickly who doesn’t. Forget about what they do or think. Move onto those who may be able to help. It seems we focus on those who ignore us rather than those who want to be there. This will only cause you more issues.
Choices. Each day you have choices.
I could wake up and have a Cheeseburger for breakfast or not go to the gym. That will not help my Heart situation. I choose to be healthy and yes I screw it up sometimes.
There are days I have to make that conscious choice and FORCE myself to do something because part of me doesn’t want to do it. It seems too hard. But I do it and you know what ? I feel amazing after it is done, completed and I can focus on the next task at hand.
So, why can’t you do it?
Because you haven’t yet found the fire in your heart or your belly. It seems too daunting, stressful, heart breaking. Find the obstacles in your way and make steps to remove them. If you don’t know, don’t just give up. You aren’t happy, then find that fire to fix it.
Excuses. So. Many. Excuses.
You are the only person getting in the way of making things better. We are all busy or get distracted.
Prioritize and stop making up excuses as to why something won’t work. I have tried many things and screwed up numerous times before I got it right. Remove the excuses, act and you may be surprised. The longer you don’t see your strength or your worth and keep making excuses, the longer the problems will persist. Your excuses are a source of your problems.
Look, I am no expert or a life coach but I get it. I get life. I get struggle. I get hurt. I get heartbreak. I get loss. I get failure. I also get success, happiness, fun, laughter, surprises.
The latter will come when you light a FIRE under your ass rather than sit back and watch an empty fire pit.
There are also people who have it FAR worse than you and sometimes your problem is not as big as you are allowing it to be.
Have questions. Want to hear real ? Ask me, I dare you.
Take a different road, screw up, you will get lost a few times but eventually you will get home and feel good again.