The Selfie Project Part 2- The Bad. Narcissist
I like to end things on a good note so, I have decided to write about the bad before the good. Which will be part 3.
When you take photos of yourself for 12 months straight you are bound to face criticism or get mocked. Heck, nowadays anything you do consistently and publicly will have it’s trolls. I have definitely faced this by a few individuals and one in particular felt it necessary to comment on almost every photo and then not explain why.
I did receive messages from a few people that my photos were annoying, narcissistic. Some went as far to say they were getting sick of seeing my face daily. Even people who I was not associated on Facebook with sent messages ( good and bad.) That mostly has to do with the fact that I made all of my posts public.
Was I pissed ? No, not me. This project further proved to me I am a long way away from fully feeling total emotion. On the plus side I was able to think logically and not let things get to me.
What always seems to surprise me and I am not sure why, is how people can be so rude and disrespectful even to people they know. Now, I realize of course that not everyone I know on Facebook is a friend and ya, maybe at some point in my life those people may have been friends or a part of my life but are not now. So most of their comments don’t really matter nor do the thoughts of people I don’t know.
Because I am not a believer in public shaming I will not name on my blog the person who felt it was ok to comment on almost every photo saying “ You are a brave man.” Or giving me a generic, elaborate story as to why or why not he kept commenting.
However, I will say this…… He crossed lines when questioned about why he did it. He insulted a friend, a close friend who I have the utmost respect for. A friend who decided to defend me. In messages he said I need to get her Laid and for her to “calm her tits.” This is something that is not acceptable in any way, shape or form.
Insult, criticize and call me all the names you want, I can take it. I can take verbal abuse…wel,l at least right now because I feel nothing. Insult my friends and that is where I draw the line, especially when it is behind their back. If you don’t like being called out for your childish acts by a friend of mine defending me then shut your mouth and hold your insults.
Damn rights I am brave, I am brave to have tolerated some disrespect for almost a year. I am brave because I do put myself out there knowing that not everyone will be pleased with my actions.
In conclusion. I dislike negative things, therefore this post is shorter than most. I take chances, not always smart ones but I would rather fail doing something that sit on my butt and do nothing. If I succeed at a project, then great and if I fail and I show that it is ok to fail every once in a while then I am ok with that too. This photo project in my mind was a success even with the criticism and disrespect I received which leads me to my next post…..Unexpected Inspiration .